I have been in an amazing relationship for over 6 years now, and we have never done anything to celebrate Valentines Day.
No chocolate, flowers or gifts. Not even a card.
And I am completely fine with that.
In fact, it was my idea.
In the run-up to our first Valentines as a couple, I made sure to mention that I was not fussed on the whole Valentines thing, and fortunately the man shared my sentiments that it was a completely useless holiday (although I am sure that if I truly coveted a bouquet with heart shaped chocolates then he would have obliged).
So, why am I happy to remain chocolate, flower and ‘romance’ free on 14th of Feb (I do happen to like all of the above)?
Valentine Day is ridiculously commercial:
On Boxing Day there were already Easter eggs in shops, followed by Valentines displays within the week. After Easter that the shops will then be flooded with summer themed displays for BBQs and beach holidays, before the next round of Halloween and Christmas.
Valentines is nothing more that one holiday in an endless merry-go-round of stuff which we are encumbered upon to buy as we move from season to season.
It is waay too predictable:
I love surprises – surprises are probably one of the most romantic thing to me – a gift neither expected nor asked for. Valentine’s is the complete opposite of this notion; the commercial expectations are set – you will do something ‘romantic’ for your other half and this will usually involve gifts/dinner/flowers/chocolates.
Expected romance seems like an oxymoron to me.
It’s totally unnecessary:
In 6 years together I have been treated a million times, from special presents given on a whim, back rubs after a tough day, evenings out, to making time to spend just talking and laughing.
So, why would I need Valentines?
It is true that you can choose to celebrate Valentines in a non-traditional way – sans flowers and chocolate – or simply choose to put aside that evening to spend time together. But, I would rather that any gesture/treat/gift came organically from the desire to do something for me rather than the expectation of – it’s Valentines so we need to be romantic.
Which is why we probably never choose to do anything for Valentines. Anything we do in our relationship, we do for us.